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*If you are Caucasian, and you adopt a Chinese child, you now have a biracial family. While I realize that you may be thinking, duh....
I work for an adoption agency. That means I take about 10-15 calls a week from families interested in bringing a child home. Some, actually, many, are just curious. Just asking details. But about once a week , I get someone who says, "Well, we talked to one agency and they talked about their African American program and I don't think we could really do that. I just don't see how a dark skinned child would fit in our home/community/etc..."
YA'LL. Chinese children are NOT white. Not even close. Not even "closer" than AA children.
When you adopt a child of any different race, you are a bi-racial family. And you have to learn to live as one! And your child will feel just a "different" in an all white classroom, or an all white church, or an all white home, as any other race child. It is YOUR responsibility to make it purposeful for them to be in places/situations that they are not the only non-white people around. I am sooooo very thankful we go to a mulit-racial, multi-generational church. Seek it out for them!
*Don't expect people to understand where you are emotionally.
Unless you have walked this road, you cannot imagine how hard it is. People will not understand how you can love and long for a child you have never had physical contact with. They won't get why you weep in worship or why you seem on edge 24/7.
I got an email this week from a friend who is waiting to go get her baby girl who has a heart condition. It said: